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The Resource Men and mothers : the lifelong struggle of sons and their mothers, Hendrika C. Freud ; translated by Marjolijn de Jager

Men and mothers : the lifelong struggle of sons and their mothers, Hendrika C. Freud ; translated by Marjolijn de Jager

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Men and mothers : the lifelong struggle of sons and their mothers
Title
Men and mothers
Title remainder
the lifelong struggle of sons and their mothers
Statement of responsibility
Hendrika C. Freud ; translated by Marjolijn de Jager
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Language
  • eng
  • dut
  • eng
Summary
Not all men vie with their fathers for the love of their mothers. In some families the mother becomes the central figure for her son - the father is excluded (or excludes himself) and does not come between mother and son. The main thesis of this book - using clinical vignettes and quotes from the work of Marcel Proust to illustrate the author's points - is that in these cases fantasies of matricide replace patricide. Men develop their male gender identity by being permitted to separate from their mother early on, but when a man does not resolve his infantile tie to his mother he risks remaining in a passive and/or dependent position towards her. Over-identification with the mother might ensue, hampering masculine development. Mothers who seek emotional support by binding their sons too closely can become seductive towards them. The child is inclined to try to satisfy the emotional needs of his mother, and he fears rejection if he asserts his independence instead of complying. A silent pact between mother and son leads to denial of differences, specifically between gender and generation. The author calls this mother-son bond, from which aggression has been banned, "the symbiotic illusion". Suppressed hatred will seek alternative routes of expression: a son might avoid all intimacy with women, or he might develop a sexual perversion. Perverse sexual scenarios then become a prerequisite in order to save potency while functioning heterosexually
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NLM
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1937-
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Halberstadt-Freud, Hendrika C.
Index
index present
LC call number
BF723.M55
LC item number
H35 2013
Literary form
non fiction
Nature of contents
bibliography
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De Jager, Marjolijn
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  • Mothers and sons
  • Sons
  • Mothers
  • Paraphilias
  • Psychoanalysis and literature
  • Psychoanalyse
  • Mutter
  • Sohn
  • Affektive Bindung
  • Mann
Label
Men and mothers : the lifelong struggle of sons and their mothers, Hendrika C. Freud ; translated by Marjolijn de Jager
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Publication
Note
Originally published in Dutch as: Mannen en moeders. Amsterdam : Van Gennep, 2002
Bibliography note
Includes bibliographical references (p. 173-178) and index
Contents
Introduction -- Proust and Freud as taskmasters -- Love's illusions -- The fateful goodnight kiss -- A new perspective on perversions -- A different adolescence -- Sadomasochism according to Proust -- Moral and sexual masochism -- Eroticism and cruel party games -- Love's devious means -- What does the son want? : conclusion
Control code
828413645
Dimensions
23 cm
Extent
xl, 184 p.
Isbn
9781780490762
Lccn
2012538516
System control number
(OCoLC)828413645
Label
Men and mothers : the lifelong struggle of sons and their mothers, Hendrika C. Freud ; translated by Marjolijn de Jager
Publication
Note
Originally published in Dutch as: Mannen en moeders. Amsterdam : Van Gennep, 2002
Bibliography note
Includes bibliographical references (p. 173-178) and index
Contents
Introduction -- Proust and Freud as taskmasters -- Love's illusions -- The fateful goodnight kiss -- A new perspective on perversions -- A different adolescence -- Sadomasochism according to Proust -- Moral and sexual masochism -- Eroticism and cruel party games -- Love's devious means -- What does the son want? : conclusion
Control code
828413645
Dimensions
23 cm
Extent
xl, 184 p.
Isbn
9781780490762
Lccn
2012538516
System control number
(OCoLC)828413645

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